Recall a time when you suffered a significant emotional hurt. Tell me, is part of you inescapably stuck there?
"Anxiety is not fear ... because fear is focused on something right in front of you, a real and objective danger. It [anxiety] is instead a kind of fear gone wild, a generalized sense of dread about something out there that seems menacing — but that in truth is not menacing, and may not even be out there." 
"The opposite of talking isn't listening. The opposite of talking is waiting."